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[demented] musings

4/02/03

My computer has been down for a little while, thus there have been no updates, but its back and, for better or worse, so am I (and yes, that is why I am just now posting my entries from the end of March)...Saw some great shows recently, including Sahara Hotnights, Elliot Smith, the Arrogants, and (Hed) Planet Earth (I know, and you're right--they're not really my thing, but they put on a great show!)...Other highlights include (but are not limited to) SoCal weather (and all that comes with perpetual summer), thebendies, and too many shows to list this late at night...Boa noite...

3/19/03

Yes, I was intrigued by her license plate: 1UKGIRL, and so, when she passed me, I had no choice but to catch up with her...Appropriately enough, I had just acquired a copy of the new Stone Roses "Best of," and, thus, it became my soundtrack as I raced down La Brea...Finally, a red light and a glimpse, and I decided that she may be perfect--cute, British (complete with accent), and with all of that going for her, I'm sure that she had great taste in music--these were the thoughts going through my head as "Sally Cinnamon" blared in the background and became the soundtrack to our future life together...Visions of summers in London and nights on the beaches at Brighton sustained me throughout the long drive home, where, upon arriving, I finally accepted/realized that "Made of Stone" was the more appropriate selection for my daydream...Some days I live on nothing but empty calories...

3/18/03

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3/17/03

I'm officially an uncle...Well, I guess I've been an uncle for several months now, but only physically, meaning that yes, the baby was my brother's son, but I hadn't met him properly, so there was no bond other than the blood, which is thick, but nothing compared to the blood-emotional bond...So, this past weekend, I officially became an uncle to Porter Zachary...Give him a few years, and then he'll be browsing the archives of thebendies.com, reading my demented musings and thinking to himself, "Man, my uncle is strange..."...

3/11/03

So I just had a crumpet for the first time in my sheltered life, and I'm officially a fan... As soon as you get a chance, have one...(insert Homer Simpson sound here)

3/04/03

If I could have a super-power, it would be the ability to transport myself to any place in the world in seconds...No traffic, Rio on the weekends...It would be beautiful...

3/01/03

The fenders twisted every which way; the headlights were crushed and melted into a million pieces; the concrete was cracked and violently disfigured; the hood raised itself upwards, reaching for some invisible hand, its fingers outstretched...Whether or not they had intended to, a work of modern art had been created...We all drove with a little more caution for the next few miles...

2/27/03

When describing myself, I don't know that I would ever think to use the word "optimist"--not that it is a bad personality trait to have or anything, but optimism is also not a trait that I would ever consider one of the stronger parts of my personality--until tonight, that is...I was discussing life, the universe, and everything with a friend, and I realized that, to my utter shock (and slight dismay--I am, after all, the closet-goth of thebendies.com), I was seeing the glass "half-full" in every one of the situations that we discussed...I'm not sure what happened or what this all means, so I'm accepting analyses from all of you amateur psychologists out there who are reading this (submit them here)...Bonus points go to the person who I decide is correct...

2/25/03

February
is, without doubt, the cruelest month...Part of my lack of updates has been laziness--I don't deny that--but part of it I have to attribute to the dense cloud that settles over me throughout these particular twenty-eight days--I HATE THIS MONTH...Its too short; its too cold; and it contains the most vile of all holidays (no--I'm not alluding to President's Day, though, with "W" as president, I'm not a big fan of that day either, but at least I get a three-day-weekend out of it)...I know that some of you are saying that it is because I'm single right now, but even when I've been dating someone around the middle of the month, its been miserable, so I've given up on it, period. You're more than welcome to try & convince me otherwise, but it is really not going to be an easy task...Of course, seeing Interpol, Burning Brides, The Catheters, Kings of Leon, Ben Kweller, Johnny Marr, Melowdrone, and The Division of Laura Lee helped, but...

2/01/03

Today, it seems that my endless routine of running around from appointment-to- appointment and activity-to-activity finally caught up with me, and my body said, "No more!"...I had a nice day of naps and mindless nonsense in between the necessary errands that I had to run...Bring on the night...

1/30/03

Lately, I've felt as if all that I've been doing at my job is writing reports, reports about what I would be doing if I didn't have to spend time writing reports about what I'm doing...Welcome to corporate America, circa 2003...

1/24/03

(flarey's disclaimer: this is not directed at anyone specifically, but over the last few months he and some friends (not the other bendies, though he suspects that they have probably dealt with this recently as well) have encountered this a lot lately from various sources, and Flarey needed to vent about it...Send comments here?)

Would someone please explain to me the need that people seem to have to play games with one another? Making me think that you are not interested does not necessarily make me want you more, regardless of what your friends may be telling me and how you may act when we are together...When I asked some girls about this, they said that the games are used to keep the guys interested, and to make us value the girl once we "win her over," but to me that is just a paradoxical, inconsistent and pathetic excuse...How am I supposed to know that you are dangling a carrot in front of my face if I can't see or smell it? Why would I even consider asking a girl out for subsequent dates when, after a great night out, she suddenly treats me like someone whom she has never seen before the next time we run into each other? I understand Lacan, and I think, quite often, he is correct, but there is much to be said for Skinner as well...In other words, if you're into a person and they've shown some sort of slight interest in you, let them know! Don't assume that your telepathic messages, however talented you may be in that area, are getting through the juvenile & sophomoric games which you're playing...If telling them what you think scares them off, then deal with it and move on...If they're into you, then you've just saved both of you a lot of psychic angst and time, and now you can get on with whatever you have to get on with...If they don't know what they think, then at least this opens up a dialogue...Regardless, its better than going directly to jail and getting visits once in a while...More people need to read L'Etranger, or at least study up on some existential ideals...(You could even check out the Cliffs' Notes version)...

Ok--now I feel better...How are you doing?

1/23/03

Its after midnight, and I'm just now getting back from seeing Hotwire at the Roxy...I know that they're not necessarily anything new, but everytime I see them, I feel as I did when I first started going to the Pompadour and the Speedway for local straight-edge and cool modern rock shows so many years ago (yes, that's a good thing)...Check them out when you get a chance, and to answer the question that I know you're all asking: no, I left before Crazytown went on...

I also saw Tegan & Sara once more this week, and I had a chance to finally see them do an electric set, & I'm hooked...Its not really my thing per se, but they put on a great show, and they're really cool girls...Sure, they're twins and not really interested in guys, but don't let that scare you off...


1/20/03

I saw the new Shania Twain video tonight...I'm glad that they found something to do with the Tron set and costumes that were taking up all of that storage space on the Disney back-lot...

1/17/03

It seems that the kids in 'Zona enjoy something other than Before Braille, Jamba Juice, Unwritten Law, SoCal, and movies...Check it out...What is going on in that state?!?!?

1/15/03

Tired? Bored? Long conference call at the office? Try this to pass the time...(I think that I may have wasted way more time than I can justify playing with the different parts of this site, but, whatever--numbers 7 and 8 are my personal favorites)...

Lonely? Want someone to pay attention to you? Try this one...

I've also a strange fascination with this one...

1/04/03

Thanks to KEXP, I discovered an amazing new band today called Le Nombre...Mix some NYC garage punk with some of the dirty new rock thing (think Burning Brides, Queens..., etc), throw in some organ and sparse horns for good measure, and you can begin to imagine their sound (or you can click here so you don't have to imagine it)...These guys ooze attitude, exemplified in songs such as "Carve Up the World"...I haven't been able to find their CD in CA yet, but you can stream an entire concert here...Oh, and by the way, its all in French...

1/02/03

I found myself driving down PCH this afternoon, the sun setting, the sky on fire, the tide beginning to come back in, and one of the Cure's most over-looked songs blaring through my speakers...This, kids, was almost perfection...

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